Sexual Urges and Celibacy (not a guide)

When the thought of this blog post crossed my mind, I laughed a couple of times because I could just imagine the mixed awkwardness everywhere like a fart! Lol, this is so awkward!

First of, why is this an awkward topic amongst Christian youths and adult alike? I mean, why do we stop at "flee from sexual immorality" and never really talk about how to manage the urge we did not put in ourselves by ourselves.

Quick story,

I met this guy a while back, he actually asked me out and I obliged. He told me on the first date that he wouldn't want to play games and that his intentions were marriage straight (omo, it sounded strange but the fact that he came off as someone who knows what he wants made it very interesting). Bro also said he wouldn't want us to sin so we wont meet in compromising places, wont touch me, but would kiss my hand occasionally for affirmation (ahah! Shebi na the ideal man be this ni?! This got more interesting) As a person, I dont really like being touched so it was so convenient.

Na here the beans burn... a couple of months passed and bro called me one night for phone sex( Laugh almost finish me that day, I felt bad too but...).

This is not to say that he wasn't spiritual enough, but it just proves again that we're mortals. Now the point is we have these urges whether you are of the spirit or of the flesh, and this post isn't to tell you how to solve your sexual problems because what works for me might not work for you. (I'm sorry 😁)
I just really want us to be comfortable enough to talk 'bout this stuff as believers. I have mine and dont even wear that face to say you're void of this. 

Apostle Paul said "... if they cannot contain themselves, let them marry..." -1Corinthians 7:9, but in this generation, marriage doesn't come to mind in your early 20s and most people have started their battle sinceeee. So while you're waiting to be free of the burn, what do you do?

See Romans 7, there Apostle paul talked about sin perverting the law into a temptation (think about it and ask yourself... why is premarital sex and it's cohorts so famous in the world now? My answer simply is: The fact that there is a law against it, makes it more enticing to try. Isn't it funny that most married people cannot relate to this fire now that sex is legal for them? Lol). Remember that sexual sin is the only sin against your body, and this twisted pleasure corrupts the indwelling of the holy spirit in you. See why it is such a big deal??

Let's look at it from this angle, lying is a very common sin, but somehow it's not as serious, like people no longer raise their brows for lies compared to how fornication makes people squeeze eyes and make annoying gestures... can you relate?

I think this is because we dont talk extensively and freely about sex as we would do with lies. If you're able to talk about it, you no longer attach importance to it and if you have got personal values and godly morals... the urge would come, but you'll be able to manage (except in extreme cases). Let me shock you, most people that are germaine with Celibacy aren't even believers! If world people can talk about this with their full chest, why are liberated people mute concerning these things??? 

Do you have these urges? How do you manage it?

Feel free to share your opinions, I'd like to know what you think...

Stay blessed. Please sanitize!

❤