Hello, my ever-loving virtual readers! It's been a minute and to think I wasn't going to titillate your mind with an article this week!😬
I'm going through a tough phase ya'll, although writing relieves my mind from anxiety, it's all still tough!
Back to why we're here...
Everyone has life-related topics they are so passionate about, although I personally have a thing or two to say regarding other topics except sports and politics, LOVE and MARRIAGE has always been my strong points.
Right from childhood, I've had a strong attraction for this area in my core, I'm passionate about it, so passionate, that thinking about it makes me happy, or sad... like shed a few tears. It's more than me being married or dating because sometimes I just want to skip the whole idea of marriage and children (shhhh... don't tell my mum!).
I think it's because it's one of the many things I see through God's eyes (through the spirit), so I've placed huge importance and expectations on it (even though we're technically not supposed to expect anything).
This could probably be the longest blog post I'd ever write, so enjoy.
Love
Growing up, I'd define this based on what my needs were at that moment (don't judge me). I'd go on and on... trust me, my definition changed as my needs changed.
Then sometime last year I read what Love meant in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 while I was helping one of my little cousins prepare for his speech. After we were done, I got really fascinated by what I saw and took another look. Guess what the whole summary was? 'selflessness'.
The truth is it would take a whole lot of character building to be able to tick check on all of the boxes. I long concluded that once we give ourselves up for reasoning to what is right, the holy spirit helps us do Better beyond reasoning (Philippians 2:13). What's most important is that you go in with the mindset of sacrificing whatever you've got (time, money, effort, all of that). It starts with emotional stability since we do not expect our gestures to be reciprocated. Technically, we love what compliments us (in the context of dating and marriage though).
If you're sailing on this love 'ship, be ready to give more than you're given. Cash in on your partner's dreams, career, needs and growth without thinking of what you're going to get back! Now you think this is difficult? I do too. You see with this mindset, you cannot even have fleets of 'ships judging by the level of commitment I just opened your eyes to, and God helps you if you're not ready, then don't sail!
Sacrifice
I watched a movie recently, well not very recently. I've been seeing it since last year back-to-back and It's a pretty interesting movie. I didn't get the lesson until the hundredth time (so much for paying attention! lol).
The movie pictured childhood love buddies who started broke but one of them wasn't limited by her fears so she became really rich (a famous chef). The guy on the other hand had a couple of fears that held him back although he had the potentials of making front-page headlines too as a famous bandleader, so he was broke.
Bottom line, when they eventually started to date, the lady invested her money(which she had) in the guy's career, buying stuff she'd never need(a bulk of band merchandise) anonymously. She also went as far as starting off a restaurant to honour the "would-have-been" mother in law's memory because she knew how much it meant to him.
Now that's about the story.
It's not in the actions but the intention. Give what you have isn't restricted to money, there's time, emotional support, efforts and so on... the list keeps going!
Love like Christ loves, he gave up what was valuable even before WE knew what effect that gesture had.
I read a tweet recently where a guy was lamenting about how much he spent on a girl and how the girls shrugged off every effort he made to make physical contact with her. After he spent so much on frivolities, she never called him back or picked his calls. I can understand the frustration here and I wish he didn't have to spend so much!
It's pathetic that guys would load their pockets just to prove one stupid point! And be so lacking in other areas while they are expecting some sexual reward in the end. It's verse versa because most ladies have little or nothing to give out these days.
The point is, love is much bigger than what it has been watered down to presently. if money wasn't available and you didn't have to make CONTENTS out of your relationships, would you still want it? Why?
I'd leave you with a short poem by Philip Somari
"
I am in love again
I can tell from the palpitations and skippings
Of my treacherous heart
The irregular stops and starts, highs and lows
Traitor! How dare you?
You couldn’t even let me enjoy the sadness of being left alone
I am in love, again!
The butterflies are back, this time in more radiant colours and flawless patterns Beautiful as ever, fluttering over reason
Traitor! You’ve set me up again
I am in love again
And it’s with the same woman!"
-PSM
Referenced movie title: ALWAYS BE MY MAYBE
Comments
Another beautiful piece!