Expectations are not such a bad thing, whoops! I pulled a plug there...
While we look forward with anticipation for a change, we should make adjustments for that change. We desire this change in the first place, because the former state isn't conducive or acceptable anymore, how can this be a bad thing?
Today, I want us to look at this from a positive perspective. The way God wants us to handle expectations, the right way.
Back story...
I was with my sister one evening, and we were having phone conversations with different people. She suddenly let out her frustration "I'm tired o, why can't I post what I want in peace?" That was an indication that there was a gist to come, so I put my phone down to hear everything. Seeing my interest, she further narrated...
Prior to this day, my sister already developed interest for destination videos, and luxury interior designs, so she shared them on her status and stories. That day a guy who was an admirer gave his 2cents. He said " you have big eyes o, if I tell you how all this people make their money ehn, you'd be shocked. They do all sorts of..." you know the rest.After telling me, I said plainly "well, He feels threatened in some funny way and he thought to let some of the steam out". Since he wasn't financially capable of affording those things he thought my sister was saying she wanted indirectly, talking it down was his defense mechanism. He's into crypto trading and an uber driver, which I'm not trying to shade. I am still a conventional woman, and for some weird reasons, I expect a man who looks forward to starting a family to have a "decent" source of income, I don't think that's a fault. It's ok if you think otherwise. Except he has solid plans though, you get my point?
While the conversation continued, I went further to explain that "accept me for who I am" is lame. Saying this, Matt 22 came to mind and I shared the parable with her.
After much discussion, I went back to read the parable because I didn't understand why the king would kill someone he forced to his party.
My confusion turned to shock when I read with TPT translation and it made it clear that the king provided an apparel for these people that were cajoled from their place of business to this party, but one refused to wear it. That was the one He sentenced.
How does it relate?
Everyone sets standards as they journey through life. Standards that you expect people who want to be part of you in some way to live up to. I used to think this was a bad thing, but it's not. If these "certain people" cannot graduate or transform into this realm, especially when you give them much allowance to, then there's a problem. For clarity, these standards are morally just and godly. Not the one laced with selfishness.
We often hear, "many are called, but few are chosen" still, only few really understand this.
It seemed like the guy in my sister's story, tried to exonerate himself from the message he thought my sister was sending. Our expectations can range from wanting our partner to loose a little weight, to them speaking better, or acting better. Before you go about justifying yourself, seek that the advice is coming from a good place and accept whatever support you are given to become better. It's different if you cannot see any love in it (and trust me, you will know).
That is not how you are, and you can CHANGE.
God doesn't want you to be static. He anticipates your growth, for you to unlearn and adopt his thoughts.
I once dated a guy who had the opportunity to go to school but he had issues that cost him his certificate. This time he got a job that wasn't very substantial. That certificate meant much to me, I needed him to complete it, but I didn't want his ego bruised so I consulted my dad, and we shared the same thought. I called him the next day to reveal my sentiments, I even checked for schools and available courses, called the school for clarification. Oga didn't bulge, playing the victim card but I wasn't going to buy it so I took a U-turn.
God desires your growth, 1Peter 2:2. If He didn't want a change, He wouldn't have provided a cloak for them. You would grow when you study his word consistently. I did that a lot last month and when I didn't continue this month, the regression was obvious.
God desires your obedience in patience, Deuteronomy 20:30. This can be difficult sometimes but it gets easier when you lean on the simple truth that His thoughts for you are good ones. Jer 29:11, 1Tim 1:16.
Now, does any of the above thought look like something you would desire too for someone you care about?
Let me share a secret; God made us in His image and likeness, which means, there's a bit of Him in you regardless of your beliefs and where you have been. To help you understand Him, relate His narration to yours-as human, like the Matt parable and my personal experience. This has helped me overtime.
I hope this spoke to you. Safe to say you have your opinions and thoughts... please dump them in the comment section (I'd love to read them). If you have questions, there's room for that on the sidebar of my home page.
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We often hear, "many are called, but few are chosen" still, only few really understand this.
It seemed like the guy in my sister's story, tried to exonerate himself from the message he thought my sister was sending. Our expectations can range from wanting our partner to loose a little weight, to them speaking better, or acting better. Before you go about justifying yourself, seek that the advice is coming from a good place and accept whatever support you are given to become better. It's different if you cannot see any love in it (and trust me, you will know).
That is not how you are, and you can CHANGE.
God doesn't want you to be static. He anticipates your growth, for you to unlearn and adopt his thoughts.
I once dated a guy who had the opportunity to go to school but he had issues that cost him his certificate. This time he got a job that wasn't very substantial. That certificate meant much to me, I needed him to complete it, but I didn't want his ego bruised so I consulted my dad, and we shared the same thought. I called him the next day to reveal my sentiments, I even checked for schools and available courses, called the school for clarification. Oga didn't bulge, playing the victim card but I wasn't going to buy it so I took a U-turn.
What God expects from you
Just because you have been called, doesn't mean you should come below expectations, when you've been given an opportunity for adjustment, refusing it is selfish, and there's no room for selfish people in this boat.
God desires your obedience in patience, Deuteronomy 20:30. This can be difficult sometimes but it gets easier when you lean on the simple truth that His thoughts for you are good ones. Jer 29:11, 1Tim 1:16.
Now, does any of the above thought look like something you would desire too for someone you care about?
Let me share a secret; God made us in His image and likeness, which means, there's a bit of Him in you regardless of your beliefs and where you have been. To help you understand Him, relate His narration to yours-as human, like the Matt parable and my personal experience. This has helped me overtime.
I hope this spoke to you. Safe to say you have your opinions and thoughts... please dump them in the comment section (I'd love to read them). If you have questions, there's room for that on the sidebar of my home page.
Want to see more posts like this? Please subscribe to my mailing list Here.
Thanks for stopping by. ❤
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