Do you think there are some restricted topics a believer cannot talk about? Or even think about?
This question plagued my heart last week after I had discussed some nerve racking thoughts that left me stressed.
I'm a female in my late 20s so you could just try to wrap your mind around possible topics that conversation was about. Before I go on to give you a long speech on what should be talked about, it is important to first note that this topic cuts only across issues of the heart. Swearing, dirty talks and cursing are not part of it.
Somehow, I have been on both sides of the fence (the flesh seeking side, and the spirit seeking side--who still wrestle with the flesh, but we good! Lol), and I can pretty much relate. There are thoughts that we just find ourselves thinking about, as a result of recent happenings, actions and decisions to be made. Everyone experiences this.
Just to establish that the flesh seeking side craves everything that counters the faith, from thoughts to actions.
We all go through the same life issues irrespective of your faith and spirituality. For instance, in my previous post on celibacy, I had revealed that being a believer doesn't shade you from sexual desires (they are hormonal so you're good), you sin when you act on them by going ahead to fulfil those desires in any way outside the legal bounds of marriage.
Back to the gist. Lately I was in a dilemma and I needed to talk about it, it was about a guy I had met and how I felt. I couldn't talk about this at first because what my thoughts were seemed carnal and I didn't want to be judged. When I told mature people, I found big words to code my message as shallowly as I could, and I don't blame them for not giving me an answer that helped. Seeing my friend (we're about the same age) I opened up and told her how I felt in the exact words. She then went on to validate my thoughts and advised as best as she could.
Why you should talk about your problems?
It serves as some sort of relief. A problem shared is a problem half solved right? Talking out loud about personal issues is therapeutic, you become really lightweight afterwards, double score when the receiver gives you good advice!
You are guided. Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly… you can imagine the rest of the story. Some people are naturally wise, this means that they might not share the same faith with you but they have some level of wisdom. In this case, I strongly believe that settling with someone of the same Faith helps in proper guidance. Iron sharpens iron.
This issue of what a christain should talk about is really important to address because the things you are afraid to talk about, the devil perverts with fear, and whatever you are afraid of, overwhelms and engulfs you. So, TALK ABOUT IT!!
If you ever need someone to talk to about ANYTHING, I'm open. I'm not sure I am a PRO at giving advice, but I'm a pretty good listener.
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